Hidden Barriers to Happiness Blog

Have you always wondered about the invisible forces that affect your health, wealth and happiness?

As a neuroscientist, and then neuro and nutritional epidemiologist, I researched the underlying causes of mental and health problems.  Now as a Holistic Brain Health Practitioner, I regularly make new discoveries while working with clients.

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How to Make Habit Change Easy

Posted by on Jan 15, 2018 in addictions, behavior, behavioral intervention, habits, sabotage, Uncategorized | 0 comments

How to Make Habit Change Easy

Did you set New Year’s Resolutions this year?

(See my suggested articles below if you need ideas)!

If yes, are some of these goals ones you have been struggling with for a long time?

If so, are you sure you are taking the best approach?

You may have noticed that some habits are easier to change than others.   Why?  Because lurking below the surface of your conscious mind, is your subconscious mind. Your subconscious mind contains your feelings and thoughts from your past that could leave you either feeling empowered or helpless in the face of a new goal.

 

Want to learn how to make habit change easy?

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Releasing Addictions with the Body Code

Posted by on Jan 8, 2018 in addictions, behavior, behavioral intervention, goals, habits | 0 comments

Releasing Addictions with the Body Code

I had a client that was addicted to pot, drank too much alcohol and played too much chess.

He would smoke 10-15 bowls (Pipes) per day, drink 2-4 alcoholic drinks per day, and had to play chess every day for 1-1.5 hrs.

He had tried to quit smoking pot before, and had successfully before, but it made him angry and resentful that he had to give up something he felt he needed. So to distract himself from his addiction to pot, he played chess 3-5 hrs a day!   After a couple of years of this, he went back to smoking again.

So he asked me to release his addiction to pot, and we worked on all the triggers that made him want to smoke.   Most of those triggers were around his difficulties getting along with people.

By the next session, (more…)

Seven Tips for a New Year’s Mood Makeover

Posted by on Dec 30, 2017 in happiness, mental health, New Years resolutions | 0 comments

Seven Tips for a New Year’s Mood Makeover

2017 has been a rough year for so many reasons. I was and still am terrified by the outcomes of the last election, and regularly grieve for everyone whose lives are made more difficult as a result.   For me personally, it has also been a difficult year with my relationships.   This admittedly has put me in a very negative and pessimistic frame of mind. After hours of release work, I’m feeling more grateful for the lessons learned, and am accepting the changes, but feeling happy feels like a stretch at this point.

Happy is not my natural state of mind. I grew up with a very negative and pessimistic father, and that was my default state for decades.   Recent research shows that there is a genetic tendency to depression, and well-being. I suspect given my family and personal history that I did not fair well these genes. Never-the-less, a gene can be expressed in 3000 different ways, so our environment, and what we do matters a lot.

I have had to work at being happy. When our environment spirals negatively downward, being happy requires more work.

Here are some simple tips that you can do to give your mood a makeover for 2018: (more…)

How to Stay Calm Despite the Family Drama

Posted by on Dec 22, 2017 in Uncategorized | 0 comments

How to Stay Calm Despite the Family Drama

My client had a particularly manipulative member of the family who was extremely critical of his work on the family property.  My client and other members of his family were concerned that this family member was trying to acquire the property by making life difficult for everyone else who shares ownership.  In preparation for a difficult extended family meeting, we cleared trapped emotions, belief systems and other subconscious barriers to help him stay calm regardless.  Upon returning, he (more…)

The Biggest Reason Why You Must Leave Abusive Relationships

Posted by on Dec 15, 2017 in abuse, healthy, law of attraction, recovery, relationships, sociopathic personalities, toxic relationships | 0 comments

The Biggest Reason Why You Must Leave Abusive Relationships

While we all know that we shouldn’t allow ourselves to be abused, leaving an abusive relationship is not always an easy choice.

Why it is so hard to leave

Sometimes, the relationship is with someone you still love.  Maybe staying with this situation means financial stability, or a lifestyle that you’ve become accustomed to.   Maybe you have children that you don’t feel like you can support on your own.  Or maybe you just can’t imagine a happy life beyond the confines of your current reality.

I know what it feels like to be in abusive relationships.  I lived with 2 (more…)

From Feeling Unloved to Hugged

Posted by on Dec 8, 2017 in beliefs, childhood trauma, emotions, forgive, healthy, healthy habits, influence, inherited patterns, love, love, relationships, self compassion, self-compassion, subconscious, subconscious barriers, understanding emotions | 0 comments

From Feeling Unloved to Hugged

I have a client whose mother died when she was still a baby, and her dad remarried a woman who constantly berated her and made her feel unlovable. Her father was distant and never filled the void and abandonment that she felt after losing her mother. Consequently, she has struggled all her life with feeling unlovable, and desperately craved affection. Whenever I talked with her, her pattern was to criticize herself.

From Feeling Unloved to Hugged

We were working together to release subconscious barriers that made her feel unloved when she suddenly felt (more…)

How to Talk to Someone with Alzheimer’s Disease

Posted by on Nov 30, 2017 in aging, Alzheimer's, Dementia, healthy, love, relationships | 0 comments

How to Talk to Someone with Alzheimer’s Disease

Have you ever tried to talk to someone with Alzheimer’s disease and ended up feeling awkward or frustrated? Communicating with someone with Alzheimer’s disease can be challenging especially if the diseases has progressed to advanced stages.

Alzheimer’s disease usually attacks the brain in a way that it makes it difficult for the affected person to communicate effectively as well as remember past events. This is challenging especially for caregivers because they have to adjust the way they communicate to their loved ones. The good news is that there are effective ways for dementia caregivers to communicate with loved ones impacted by this disease, as discussed below. (more…)

Letting Go of Holiday Loneliness

Posted by on Nov 22, 2017 in beliefs, depression, emotions, relationships, understanding emotions | 0 comments

Letting Go of Holiday Loneliness

Right before the holidays, my client’s boyfriend dumped her. She did not have family or close friends to spend the holidays with. This caused distress for her. In addition to the heartbreak she felt, she had feelings of being left alone and abandoned.

Releasing feelings that cause loneliness is the first step.

Our first step to address holiday loneliness was   (more…)

The Dangers of Vitamin D Deficiency

Posted by on Nov 15, 2017 in depression, emotions, food, mental health, nutrition | 0 comments

The Dangers of Vitamin D Deficiency

Most people are deficient in vitamin D.

The current recommended dose of vitamin  D is 600IU daily for adults, but many experts in nutrition and functional and natural medicine say that the optimal dose ranges between 1000-4000 IU per day.

Depending on the study, Vitamin D deficiency has shown to range between 30 -75% in the general US population!

Why are so many people vitamin D deficient?

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Help Others More Effectively

Posted by on Nov 8, 2017 in behavior, beliefs, conflict, emotions, healthy, love, mental health, relationships, toxic relationships, understanding emotions | 0 comments

Help Others More Effectively

Do you have someone in your family who just can’t seem to get their life together?  You might have family members who won’t engage in healthy behaviors, are depressed, and are often addicts.

Do you find yourself worrying about them so much that it is taking away from your enjoyment of life?   Do you feel compelled to help, yet frustrated, hopeless and helpless about the situation?

If so, you are not alone.  I regularly talk with anxious caretakers who want me to help their loved ones.   Some realize that they would be more effective as caretakers if (more…)