Hidden Barriers to Happiness Blog

Have you always wondered about the invisible forces that affect your health, wealth and happiness?

As a neuroscientist, and then neuro and nutritional epidemiologist, I researched the underlying causes of mental and health problems.  Now as a Holistic Brain Health Practitioner, I regularly make new discoveries while working with clients.

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How to Feel Beautiful From the Inside Out

Posted by on Feb 8, 2018 in mental health, self compassion, self-image, self-love | 0 comments

How to Feel Beautiful From the Inside Out

I had a client who was by most standards so beautiful that she probably could have been a professional model if she had wanted to.  And yet, she was constantly criticizing her looks!   She couldn’t be persuaded by other people’s positive feedback.  All she could see were the things that she didn’t like.  And her criticisms were things that I would have never noticed if she hadn’t pointed them out, nor did I  agreed that they made her unattractive!

After clearing her addictive negative thoughts belief systems and emotions about her looks, (more…)

17 Questions To Determine If You Truly Love Yourself

Posted by on Jan 30, 2018 in love, self-love | 2 comments

17 Questions To Determine If You Truly Love Yourself

I thought I loved myself

After decades of self-loathing, the constant self-criticism had stopped. Every once in awhile, I’d hear a voice in my head telling me, “You are beautiful”.

Then one day, my boyfriend told me he no longer loved me. I had tolerated his lack of initiative far longer than I should have, and I had given more to the relationship than I was receiving.

When you don’t love yourself enough

This break up shook me to the core. I had a to clear a lot of pain.   Suddenly, those old feelings of not being lovable came back in full force.

In releasing my pain, I began to ask myself these questions:

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A Surprising Result: Releasing Barriers to Drinking Enough Water

Posted by on Jan 22, 2018 in drinking water, drinking water, habits, healthy habits, sabotage, sabotage, weight loss | 0 comments

A Surprising Result: Releasing Barriers to Drinking Enough Water

A client desperately wanted to lose weight, but after suffering a series of misfortunate events, she was having a hard time engaging in healthy behaviors.   Her subconscious said that one of her major underlying contributors to her inability to lose weight was that she was chronically and severely dehydrated!

After releasing subconscious barriers that were getting in the way of her ability to drink water, (more…)

How to Make Habit Change Easy

Posted by on Jan 15, 2018 in addictions, behavior, behavioral intervention, habits, sabotage, Uncategorized | 0 comments

How to Make Habit Change Easy

Did you set New Year’s Resolutions this year?

(See my suggested articles below if you need ideas)!

If yes, are some of these goals ones you have been struggling with for a long time?

If so, are you sure you are taking the best approach?

You may have noticed that some habits are easier to change than others.   Why?  Because lurking below the surface of your conscious mind, is your subconscious mind. Your subconscious mind contains your feelings and thoughts from your past that could leave you either feeling empowered or helpless in the face of a new goal.

 

Want to learn how to make habit change easy?

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Releasing Addictions with the Body Code

Posted by on Jan 8, 2018 in addictions, behavior, behavioral intervention, goals, habits | 0 comments

Releasing Addictions with the Body Code

I had a client that was addicted to pot, drank too much alcohol and played too much chess.

He would smoke 10-15 bowls (Pipes) per day, drink 2-4 alcoholic drinks per day, and had to play chess every day for 1-1.5 hrs.

He had tried to quit smoking pot before, and had successfully before, but it made him angry and resentful that he had to give up something he felt he needed. So to distract himself from his addiction to pot, he played chess 3-5 hrs a day!   After a couple of years of this, he went back to smoking again.

So he asked me to release his addiction to pot, and we worked on all the triggers that made him want to smoke.   Most of those triggers were around his difficulties getting along with people.

By the next session, (more…)

Seven Tips for a New Year’s Mood Makeover

Posted by on Dec 30, 2017 in happiness, mental health, New Years resolutions | 0 comments

Seven Tips for a New Year’s Mood Makeover

2017 has been a rough year for so many reasons. I was and still am terrified by the outcomes of the last election, and regularly grieve for everyone whose lives are made more difficult as a result.   For me personally, it has also been a difficult year with my relationships.   This admittedly has put me in a very negative and pessimistic frame of mind. After hours of release work, I’m feeling more grateful for the lessons learned, and am accepting the changes, but feeling happy feels like a stretch at this point.

Happy is not my natural state of mind. I grew up with a very negative and pessimistic father, and that was my default state for decades.   Recent research shows that there is a genetic tendency to depression, and well-being. I suspect given my family and personal history that I did not fair well these genes. Never-the-less, a gene can be expressed in 3000 different ways, so our environment, and what we do matters a lot.

I have had to work at being happy. When our environment spirals negatively downward, being happy requires more work.

Here are some simple tips that you can do to give your mood a makeover for 2018: (more…)

How to Stay Calm Despite the Family Drama

Posted by on Dec 22, 2017 in Uncategorized | 0 comments

How to Stay Calm Despite the Family Drama

My client had a particularly manipulative member of the family who was extremely critical of his work on the family property.  My client and other members of his family were concerned that this family member was trying to acquire the property by making life difficult for everyone else who shares ownership.  In preparation for a difficult extended family meeting, we cleared trapped emotions, belief systems and other subconscious barriers to help him stay calm regardless.  Upon returning, he (more…)

The Biggest Reason Why You Must Leave Abusive Relationships

Posted by on Dec 15, 2017 in abuse, healthy, law of attraction, recovery, relationships, sociopathic personalities, toxic relationships | 0 comments

The Biggest Reason Why You Must Leave Abusive Relationships

While we all know that we shouldn’t allow ourselves to be abused, leaving an abusive relationship is not always an easy choice.

Why it is so hard to leave

Sometimes, the relationship is with someone you still love.  Maybe staying with this situation means financial stability, or a lifestyle that you’ve become accustomed to.   Maybe you have children that you don’t feel like you can support on your own.  Or maybe you just can’t imagine a happy life beyond the confines of your current reality.

I know what it feels like to be in abusive relationships.  I lived with 2 (more…)

From Feeling Unloved to Hugged

Posted by on Dec 8, 2017 in beliefs, childhood trauma, emotions, forgive, healthy, healthy habits, influence, inherited patterns, love, love, relationships, self compassion, self-compassion, subconscious, subconscious barriers, understanding emotions | 0 comments

From Feeling Unloved to Hugged

I have a client whose mother died when she was still a baby, and her dad remarried a woman who constantly berated her and made her feel unlovable. Her father was distant and never filled the void and abandonment that she felt after losing her mother. Consequently, she has struggled all her life with feeling unlovable, and desperately craved affection. Whenever I talked with her, her pattern was to criticize herself.

From Feeling Unloved to Hugged

We were working together to release subconscious barriers that made her feel unloved when she suddenly felt (more…)

How to Talk to Someone with Alzheimer’s Disease

Posted by on Nov 30, 2017 in aging, Alzheimer's, Dementia, healthy, love, relationships | 0 comments

How to Talk to Someone with Alzheimer’s Disease

Have you ever tried to talk to someone with Alzheimer’s disease and ended up feeling awkward or frustrated? Communicating with someone with Alzheimer’s disease can be challenging especially if the diseases has progressed to advanced stages.

Alzheimer’s disease usually attacks the brain in a way that it makes it difficult for the affected person to communicate effectively as well as remember past events. This is challenging especially for caregivers because they have to adjust the way they communicate to their loved ones. The good news is that there are effective ways for dementia caregivers to communicate with loved ones impacted by this disease, as discussed below. (more…)