Hidden Barriers to Happiness Blog

Have you always wondered about the invisible forces that affect your health, wealth and happiness?

As a neuroscientist, and then neuro and nutritional epidemiologist, I researched the underlying causes of mental and health problems.  Now as a Holistic Brain Health Practitioner, I regularly make new discoveries while working with clients.

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Healthy Choices Made Easy

Posted by on Apr 8, 2018 in addictions, behavior, Emotion Code, emotional eating, habits, healthy habits, sabotage, sabotage, The Body Code | 0 comments

Healthy Choices Made Easy

Terry came to me concerned about her weight. She had lost 40Ibs through weight watchers, but she was constantly worried about gaining it back, and she wanted to lose 30Ibs more.   She would get intense and regular cravings for salty foods and sweets, and was always thinking about food.   Then when she would eat, she found herself eating far more than she should have, whether it was at restaurants with friends, or at home alone.   At the worst of her eating habits, she could gain weight very fast. Just before we addressed this issue she had gained 11Ibs in 2 weeks!   (more…)

How to Have a Conscious Relationship

Posted by on Mar 30, 2018 in healthy, love, relationships | 0 comments

How to Have a Conscious Relationship

When I fell in love with my boyfriend, I could only see the good in him. He was funny, warm, generous, and kind, and I allowed that first impression to be sealed into my brain. I made assumptions based on what I initially saw about his capacity to love and be loving. I formed expectations from him based on my imagined reality that he would never do anything to hurt me. I made assumptions that he would treat me in the ways that I expected and hoped to be treated.

All these assumptions that I made ended up hurting me tremendously when I discovered he wasn’t all I had wanted him to be.

When we first meet people, we have a tendency to (more…)

Finally Getting Support

Posted by on Mar 22, 2018 in Uncategorized | 0 comments

Finally Getting Support

I have a client that wanted to break up with a guy that she was dating.  All I knew was that she didn’t feel like he was good for her.   We released subconscious barriers to make that easy for her, and we ended up mostly releasing despair around not getting support she needed.

The following week when I checked on her, she was smiling. (more…)

The Most Important Secret to Healthy Aging

Posted by on Mar 15, 2018 in aging, Alzheimer's, beliefs, beliefs, Dementia, healthy brain | 0 comments

The Most Important Secret to Healthy Aging

It is not how old you are but how you are old.

As a Neuroscientist and Epidemiologist I spent over a decade researching the underlying causes of Alzheimer’s disease. But after working with thousands of clients, I now realize that the one single and most important thing you need to prevent aging and cognitive decline isn’t about your habits, your education or your exposures. It is your willingness to release your negative beliefs about aging.

When I talk to the elderly about how Alzheimer’s is reversible, and how there are so many things you can do to keep your brain young, I regularly hear, “Oh…I’m too old for that”.  Do you notice the problem with this belief?  I do.  It indicates to me that the person is saying that they are no longer worth the effort. And that distresses me terribly because I know that this is precisely how they will become old, by giving up.

But what happens if you don’t believe you have to get old?

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Developing the Ability to Remember Names

Posted by on Mar 8, 2018 in aging, Alzheimer's, Dementia, healthy brain | 0 comments

Developing the Ability to Remember Names

I used to struggle to remember names.   I’d have to ask people to repeat their names often, and would often give up to avoid the shame of not remembering.  After releasing subconscious barriers that got in the way of my ability to remember names, I led a Meetup hike.  There were 10 new people present.   After introducing ourselves, I went around the circle (more…)

3 Types of People That Leave Your Heart Broken

Posted by on Feb 28, 2018 in healthy, heart break, heart broken, relationships, toxic relationships | 0 comments

3 Types of People That Leave Your Heart Broken

I had my heart broken so many times that after each breakup, I would get guarded and fearful around intimacy.  In my healing journey, in addition to releasing the pain and anguish, I would get determined to figure out why. I needed to know what I did to contribute to the demise of this relationship, and if there was something about this person I attracted into my life, so I would know what to avoid in the future.

I needed to identify the types of people that would leave me heart broken.

My pattern was that I met men who were initially interesting and charming, but once I started showing interest, they would change or withdraw.   I have since learned that as an empath, I am particularly susceptible to attracting these types of people.

What types of people should you avoid?

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Overcome Communication Challenges

Posted by on Feb 22, 2018 in communication, healthy, relationships | 0 comments

Overcome Communication Challenges

My client *Sara had a wonderful relationship with her partner.  She considered him her best friend.  But he was in school and she had made incredible sacrifices financially and in terms of the amount of time they had together for the relationship, and she didn’t see how she could get her needs met.  We worked together to release her grief around this, and her anxiety that her sacrifices wouldn’t pay off.   We also got to some core issues from her past that were triggering these feelings.   After doing this, (more…)

How Your Unconscious Intentions Can Sabotage Your Relationships

Posted by on Feb 15, 2018 in childhood trauma, healthy, love, relationships, The Body Code, toxic relationships | 0 comments

How Your Unconscious Intentions Can Sabotage Your Relationships

Do you struggle with your relationships?

If so, what unconscious intentions do you bring into your relationships?

 

What are unconscious intentions?

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How to Feel Beautiful From the Inside Out

Posted by on Feb 8, 2018 in mental health, self compassion, self-image, self-love | 0 comments

How to Feel Beautiful From the Inside Out

I had a client who was by most standards so beautiful that she probably could have been a professional model if she had wanted to.  And yet, she was constantly criticizing her looks!   She couldn’t be persuaded by other people’s positive feedback.  All she could see were the things that she didn’t like.  And her criticisms were things that I would have never noticed if she hadn’t pointed them out, nor did I  agreed that they made her unattractive!

After clearing her addictive negative thoughts belief systems and emotions about her looks, (more…)

17 Questions To Determine If You Truly Love Yourself

Posted by on Jan 30, 2018 in love, self-love | 2 comments

17 Questions To Determine If You Truly Love Yourself

I thought I loved myself

After decades of self-loathing, the constant self-criticism had stopped. Every once in awhile, I’d hear a voice in my head telling me, “You are beautiful”.

Then one day, my boyfriend told me he no longer loved me. I had tolerated his lack of initiative far longer than I should have, and I had given more to the relationship than I was receiving.

When you don’t love yourself enough

This break up shook me to the core. I had a to clear a lot of pain.   Suddenly, those old feelings of not being lovable came back in full force.

In releasing my pain, I began to ask myself these questions:

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