Hidden Barriers to Happiness Blog

Have you always wondered about the invisible forces that affect your health, wealth and happiness?

As a neuroscientist, and then neuro and nutritional epidemiologist, I researched the underlying causes of mental and health problems.  Now as a Holistic Healer for a Happy & Healthy Brain, I regularly make new discoveries while working with clients.

Curious?   Sign up to get my Top 10 Tips for a Happy & Healthy Brain.  You’ll also get 2-4 newsletters month about the hidden barriers that get in the way of the life you really want!

What are you waiting for?  Knowledge is power!

The Easiest Way to Fast Track Transformation

Posted by on Jan 15, 2017 in Uncategorized | 0 comments

The Easiest Way to Fast Track Transformation

For most of my life, I hated myself.   I could write volumes of books about what was wrong with me.   The worse thing about this was that I felt hopeless to change so many of the things I hated about myself.  Transformation felt slow, arduous and even impossible!

Now when I discover something I want to change about myself, for many things, I know how to get shifts in only a few hours!

For example, a few months ago, I was experiencing a slump in my business, despite increased speaking engagements and more exposure.   I couldn’t figure out why, until I realized that my stress around the business slow down was effecting how I showed up with potential clients.   Once I realized this, I was able to quickly let go of that stress, and better and engage and connect with potential clients.

So what did I do?  

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5 New Year’s Resolutions for your Mind & Brain:

Posted by on Dec 30, 2016 in goals, New Years resolutions | 0 comments

5 New Year’s Resolutions for your Mind & Brain:

As 2017 approaches, are you thinking about your annual New Year’s Resolutions?  

Most people think of New Year’s Resolutions to start dieting or exercising, but there are plenty of other options as well.   A friend of mine who had not been very good at staying at touch, recently apologized and told me that his New Year’s resolution was to be a better friend.   I was deeply touched.   So in honor of his creative New Year’s resolution, I present his, and a few more ideas that that you may not have considered.

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7 Tips to Respectfully Discuss Divisive Topics:

Posted by on Dec 15, 2016 in healthy, relationships | 0 comments

7 Tips to Respectfully Discuss Divisive Topics:

America has grown increasingly divided, especially over the course of this last election, and I worry in today’s political climate, it could get worse before it gets better.

The increasing divisiveness has made me want to only spend time with people I agree with. But I’ve realized that my tendency to stay one sided only reinforces my own way of thinking, and does not help us bridge the widening gaps between us.  Americans now more than ever need to find ways to bridge the divide. We need to be able to sit down and respectfully talk to people we don’t agree with, and find common ground. It is the only way we will be able to make the changes we need to benefit us all!

I am no diplomat, but I tend to seek out very diplomatic friends, so I asked them for their wisdom. With their support I’ve developed 7 tips we can take to respectfully discuss divisive topics.

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3 Steps to Become Open Hearted

Posted by on Nov 30, 2016 in love, love, relationships | 0 comments

3 Steps to Become Open Hearted

For most of my life, I was seen as indifferent, cold or standoffish.  I always admired people who could be loving and open hearted the moment we met. But I never felt comfortable letting down my guard with people that quickly.   I wondered, how could they trust someone so quickly?  How could these people be so  sure that they wouldn’t get hurt?

In those darker moments, I spent a lot of time in blame mode.   I blamed my farther for his constant criticism, for making me feel never enough. I blamed my mother for her inability to defend me against his attacks or stand up to him. I labeled my dad as an angeraholic, and my mom as a victim, and I was so stuck in these thought patterns that I couldn’t change my relationship with them.

I’ve come a long way since then. Now when I think of my parents, I no longer harbor any of the long-standing resentment or blame. When I think of my friends, or people I’ve met, I can approach them with an open heart. Without any conscious intention of doing something differently, I’m smiling more, I’m happier to see people and I’m noticing more love coming my way as well!

So what have I done to become more open hearted?

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5 Steps to Recover From The 2016 Election

Posted by on Nov 15, 2016 in anxiety, fear, mental health, recovery, traumatic event, worry | 0 comments

5 Steps to Recover From The 2016 Election

Many people I know, including myself, are struggling to grapple with the implications of this election.   Not only has a racist xenophobe won the election, but Republicans will now have complete control over every branch of government. For those of us concerned about racial tolerance, the environment, and preserving the social programs we do have, there are no words to describe how worried we are.   And for those of us concerned about climate change, there is a growing terror about the Republican’s denial that global warming is man made, and what they will do when they have all the power.

So how can we process the results of this election?   How can get back to the things that are important to us?  How can we make the best of this situation?

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Do You Have Election Stress Disorder?

Posted by on Oct 30, 2016 in anxiety, environmental affects, mental health, stress relief, worry | 0 comments

Do You Have Election Stress Disorder?

Thanks to the negativity surrounding this year’s elections, election stress disorder is said by the American Psychological Association to be affecting 52% of Americans.

This diagnosis was originally coined in developing countries with more instability, and in 2016 is becoming a major epidemic in America.

What are the symptoms of Election Stress Disorder?

More people are feeling anxious and stressed.   We are more prone to rage in driving, at work, and in relationships.   As we take sides, we grow more divided and are unwilling to listen to the views of others. We become more contemptuous and less respectful.   The stress of this election is putting real strain on relationships, both in the home and beyond.

What are the factors that are contributing to this?

We have one of the most contentious elections between the 2 major party presidential candidates in the last 50 years or more.   They are also the 2 most unpopular candidates in modern day history.   Both are using fear of the other, as a driving force to vote for them. Neither of them are trustworthy, and both are being investigated by the FBI or in Federal Court for corrupt practices.   Neither of them inspire us to be our best, and very few people believe that they represent the views of the 99%.

i-dont-want-to-hearThe stress of this election comes many factors: 1.) Many are voting out of fear of the other, and not for the change we want to see.   2.) Many of us are desperate for real change to help the 99%, and most of us don’t believe either candidate will make our lives better.   3.)   There is tremendous fear of either a Trump or Clinton presidency and the ramifications of either taking office.  4.) The media excludes the voices of the 3rd party candidates, and perpetuates the idea that we only have 2 viable choices.   5.) The negativity and disparaging comments made by the campaigns and the media about others gives us subconscious permission to treat others similarly.

Our environment plays a very important role in how we treat each other.   There are countries for example that are known to be more friendly than others, and much of it has to do with their media and how they treat each other.   If we tolerate more rudeness, disrespect and put downs from our leaders and our media, we can expect to see that behavior grow. The people that are the most susceptible to these influences are people that have less control over their emotions.   When the emotional circuits are triggered, the prefrontal cortex should kick in to help us to have control over our impulses.   The prefrontal cortex however does not finish developing until about 25, and that can vary greatly, depending on your environment growing up, your mental health and your education.  Because of the way the brain develops, and declines, children and the elderly are more susceptible to being emotionally triggered. Teachers are expressing a deep concern over the increase in bullying seen at schools, calling it “the Trump effect”.    Stress also impacts our ability to use the prefrontal cortex, and thus our emotional inner child gets unleashed, and that can lead to more strife and tension in relationships.

Now that we know that the elections are stressing us out and negatively impacting our relationships, what should we do about it?

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How to Let go of Excessive Worry

Posted by on Oct 15, 2016 in anxiety, mental health, worry | 0 comments

How to Let go of Excessive Worry

Do you worry too much? 

One of big reasons why we worry so much is because we are trained for left brained verbal thinking. We are not trained to feel! In fact, we are often taught to “Just be cool”, thus encouraging us to deny our emotions. But these emotions don’t go away on their own. They get lodged in our tissues to reek havoc in our mental and physical health as we age.

Also if we couldn’t count on our parents while young, then we might have inadvertently been trained to worry. After all, we had lots of responsibilities. We needed to make sure everything was taken care of, and we had a roof over our heads.   And because the world wasn’t safe, we felt like we had to worry, because who else would be responsible?

But the constant worry causes us an incredible amount of stress. Relaxation is difficult or near impossible. It is hard to enjoy life when are worrying all the time!

So how do we turn it off?

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Goodbye Sabotage, Hello Self-compassion

Posted by on Sep 30, 2016 in emotional eating, sabotage, sabotage, self compassion, self-compassion | 0 comments

Goodbye Sabotage, Hello Self-compassion

Have you ever wondered why we self-sabotage?

We often call it addictions. And yes, we develop addictions by repeating the same action over and over.   But why?

Addictions, whether they are to food, alcohol or an obsessive-compulsive habit such as hand washing, are how we self-soothe to deal with our unpleasant, anxiety-prone reality.

I have a client who I’ve worked with to release a lot of self-sabotaging behaviors. She wasn’t exercising enough, drinking enough water, or eating well.   We released the negative beliefs, emotions, addictive thought patterns and feelings of sabotage, and now she has developed healthy food, water and exercise habits.

But now that she is on a healthy streak, losing weight and looking great, she had a fear that she could self-sabotage again. So we asked her subconscious, “what triggers her to self-sabotage?”  The answers were enlightening, and likely relevant to most or all of us!

Her subconscious revealed that she could be triggered to self-sabotage when:

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Subconscious Blocks to Healing Parts 3-5

Posted by on Sep 15, 2016 in subconscious, subconscious barriers | 0 comments

Subconscious Blocks to Healing Parts 3-5

Do you know people who are always getting in their own way?

People who take a step towards progress, and then seem to run away?

There are many people that regularly get in the way of their own healing, and there are a variety of reasons.   It is not due to an inherent weakness, but subconscious barriers that occur as a result of their past.   In my last article, I discussed the 1st subconscious block to healing.    I’ve included 3 more in the following videos.

You’ll learn about subconscious barriers to healing that:

  • are especially prevalent in women over 40, but are seen in many others as well.
  • are common in people with a lot of education.
  • are common in people who don’t tend to feel grounded or stable.

Please watch and share with your friends.

The first step towards progress is knowledge, and knowledge is power.

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Subconscious Blocks to Healing Parts 1-2

Posted by on Aug 30, 2016 in Uncategorized | 0 comments

Subconscious Blocks to Healing Parts 1-2

Have you been given a diagnosis that you haven’t been able to recover from?

Is this illness keeping you from having the life you want?

 

On the other hand… there are people, like Arthur, that have miraculous healing experiences.   How do they do that?

What is their key to success?

One thing that is absolutely required for healing (that most people who are sick do not have is):

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