Are you neurotic, narcissist or neurotypical?

Regardless of how hurtful people can be, if we are in a relationship with them, we tend to assume that they share our similar values. But this isn’t always true. And this common assumption can get us in a lot of trouble, especially with narcissists.

While there are others that think like us (to some degree), these days, we regularly encounter people who shock us.  We find ourselves saying, “How could they say (or do) such a thing?”  “Doesn’t he/she care about my feelings?” And if we love the person, we might find ourselves making excuses for a person who has hurt us because we want so desperately to hold onto our original view of the person we fell in love with in the first place.

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Find Love with the Emotion Code

Are you finding yourself single once again on Valentine’s Day?

With all the commercial reminders around this holiday, it can be a stark reminder to those of us who are single, of what we don’t have.

But I have good news for you!  If you want to find love, I’m here to deliver a message of hope!

First here are a couple of things to consider to put this day in perspective:

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One Question That Will Change Your Relationship With Yourself

I showed up to yoga, stressed to the max with everything I had to do.   I had talk to give, taxes to do, people to get back to, a book to complete, and a blog article to write.   As my yoga instructor was guiding us through her sequence,  I found myself cycling between feeling overwhelmed about how I was going get everything done, what I should write my blog article about, and trying to remind myself that I needed to be present.

When suddenly I had an epiphany.

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How to Have a Conscious Relationship

When I fell in love with my boyfriend, I could only see the good in him. He was funny, warm, generous, and kind, and I allowed that first impression to be sealed into my brain. I made assumptions based on what I initially saw about his capacity to love and be loving. I formed expectations from him based on my imagined reality that he would never do anything to hurt me. I made assumptions that he would treat me in the ways that I expected and hoped to be treated.

All these assumptions that I made ended up hurting me tremendously when I discovered he wasn’t all I had wanted him to be.

When we first meet people, we have a tendency to

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How Your Unconscious Intentions Can Sabotage Your Relationships

Do you struggle with your relationships?

If so, what unconscious intentions do you bring into your relationships?

 

What are unconscious intentions?

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From Feeling Unloved to Hugged

I have a client whose mother died when she was still a baby, and her dad remarried a woman who constantly berated her and made her feel unlovable. Her father was distant and never filled the void and abandonment that she felt after losing her mother. Consequently, she has struggled all her life with feeling unlovable, and desperately craved affection. Whenever I talked with her, her pattern was to criticize herself.

From Feeling Unloved to Hugged

We were working together to release subconscious barriers that made her feel unloved when she suddenly felt

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