How to Deal With Bullies, Trolls and Haters

How to Deal With Bullies, Trolls and Haters

Last week, I submitted a comment on a blog, and got back the wrath of what I like to call an “angry man-child”.   This person insulted me and everything that I said, and it was clear that he was ready to pick a fight.   I felt myself getting defensive, and I started to think how I’d retaliate.   But I quickly realized that my emotions were getting in the way of me. I decided that I’d try to call him out on his behavior by labeling it, and then I tried to respectfully use reason to argue my point.

I had hoped that I would increase his awareness of how he came across, but he came back with more vehement insults and lambasted me for not addressing his points.

I knew that he was an angry man-child, and that he was trying to defend an ego that someone in his past had insulted.   But I still wanted to find a way to silence him. I wanted him to realize he was spreading anger and hatred that only hurt people and himself.

I couldn’t seem to let the issue go!

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How to Forgive the Beasts in Our Life

How to Forgive the Beasts in Our Life

Jackie was abused as a child by a family member. This “beast” violated her trust and left her afraid and vulnerable for years of her childhood.   She was sworn to secrecy and felt helpless to protect herself.

His actions were none other than horrific! But if she had held the anger inside of her all her life, it would have eaten away at her and magnified the trauma. It would have trapped emotions around her heart, creating what we call a heart wall. A heart wall would have robbed her ability to love herself and others, and prevented her from fully embracing life!

So how did she let that anger go?

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When You Don’t Fit In

When You Don’t Fit In

For most of my life, I didn’t feel like I fit in.

To start, I didn’t look like anyone else.   As a Eurasian in the 70’s, I was a pretty rare breed.   I don’t remember meeting anyone else who was Eurasian in the US until I got into high school!

I also wasn’t good at making friends, and then we moved to Hong Kong, and my parents put my sister and I in a Chinese speaking school.   We only spoke English at the time.

These early life experiences set me up to feel like an outsider for the rest of my life.

For most of my life, I felt rejected, unloved, and unacceptable.

I still don’t fit in, but my attitude towards not fitting in has shifted 180 degrees. 

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How Childhood Trauma Affects Physical Health

How Childhood Trauma Affects  Physical Health

I had a client who had been coughing for months.   Her breathing felt tight and restricted, and it was compromising her ability to talk and sing and breathe!   We released exposure to cigarette smoke in her life and from her ancestors, and the coughing decreased but persisted.   What did we have to release before the coughing stopped?

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