I grew up in a home where I was regularly yelled at for doing things like leaving lights on, for eating too much, or wanting too much. I was told that it was my job not to make my father angry, and so I felt like I was constantly stressed, and feeling like I was walking on egg-shells around the house. I was taught that we had to respect and obey our elders, and the idea of standing up for myself was completely foreign to me. Since I didn’t believe I would be able to avoid his anger, I tried to not have feelings and needs. This set me up for a lifelong pattern of isolating when I was unhappy, and trying to deal with it on my own.
The problem with this model, isRead More
Its holiday season! The season of parties and food, and fun and laughter, and sometimes people who we have to see, but would rather not.
So what do we do if we can’t avoid those people that drive us slightly batty?
Below are 5 things we can do to keep our sanity when we encounter a toxic person:Read More
I admit that I can be very opinionated. I’m passionate about social justice, about treating people, animals and our mother earth compassionately, and I’m not a fan of policies that favor profit over our collective welfare. And my opinions, which I’m not afraid to share, frequently attract others who wish to “debate”. I say this in quotation marks because I believe we’ve lost understanding of the meaning of debate in this country. When I was young, I don’t remember politics being this vitriolic. I don’t remember people calling each other names or making personal insults to the degree that we do these days. I say this in quotations because I believe that as soon as the personal attacks begin, the person (or persons) who choose to engage in them are no longer debating. They are arguing.
And why is this distinction important?Read More
This morning I woke up with something on my mind. I can’t share the details, but lets just say I was rather unhappy about a recent event, and I was defiantly plotting as to how I’d respond. Luckily I now know that when my mind is not at peace, that it’s not healthy for my mind or body, and there’s something I can do about it. So using the Emotion Code, I asked my subconscious if I had any trapped emotions that were contributing to my feelings about this recent event. The answer was “yes”. In fact the answer is almost always “yes! Why? Because our past experiences have a profound effect on our reactions to current events.Read More