Help Others More Effectively

Help Others More Effectively

Do you have someone in your family who just can’t seem to get their life together?  You might have family members who won’t engage in healthy behaviors, are depressed, and are often addicts.

Do you find yourself worrying about them so much that it is taking away from your enjoyment of life?   Do you feel compelled to help, yet frustrated, hopeless and helpless about the situation?

If so, you are not alone.  I regularly talk with anxious caretakers who want me to help their loved ones.   Some realize that they would be more effective as caretakers if we worked with them first, but others don’t seem to appreciate their own contributions.

Caring for a difficult dependent is exhausting and stressful, and it is very hard, especially under so much pressure to be at your best in your relationships all the time.

How Are You Showing Up?

Luckily, my client, who has a few addicts in her family, realized that to best serve her family, she needed to work on how she showed up.

helping others more effectively

We helped her set better boundaries, increased her confidence in interacting with her challenging family members, released helplessness about helping them…and a lot of worry.  The next time she talked with her son, she noticed that she felt less guarded, less judgmental, and more helpful.

Her son in turn, seemed better at listening and responding to her concerns.   He even seemed more interested in getting healthy than before!

We can easily get stuck in relationship patterns that don’t change.  Beliefs and emotions come from out past experiences and we all carry them with us. When we are stuck in these patterns, we can’t see the big picture, and find ways to solve problems.


Helping Others More Effectively Starts with You


To change how we show up in our relationships, we have to release subconscious beliefs and emotions that drive our addictive thought patterns. Helping others more effectively often starts on our side of the relationship.

Are you trying to support someone that needs to change? Change how you show up in those relationships. Imagine being as effective as you can be in helping them.  This doesn’t mean you have to try harder or work harder.  Be your most empowered, loving and wise version of you.

At minimum, it should improve your relationships, but I have often seen it as a first step to recovery for the loved one as well.

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