How to Have a Conscious Relationship

How to Have a Conscious Relationship

When I fell in love with my boyfriend, I could only see the good in him. He was funny, warm, generous, and kind, and I allowed that first impression to be sealed into my brain. I made assumptions based on what I initially saw about his capacity to love and be loving. I formed expectations from him based on my imagined reality that he would never do anything to hurt me. I made assumptions that he would treat me in the ways that I expected and hoped to be treated.

All these assumptions that I made ended up hurting me tremendously when I discovered he wasn’t all I had wanted him to be.

When we first meet people, we have a tendency to

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3 Types of People That Leave Your Heart Broken

3 Types of People That Leave Your Heart Broken

I had my heart broken so many times that after each breakup, I would get guarded and fearful around intimacy.  In my healing journey, in addition to releasing the pain and anguish, I would get determined to figure out why. I needed to know what I did to contribute to the demise of this relationship, and if there was something about this person I attracted into my life, so I would know what to avoid in the future.

I needed to identify the types of people that would leave me heart broken.

My pattern was that I met men who were initially interesting and charming, but once I started showing interest, they would change or withdraw.   I have since learned that as an empath, I am particularly susceptible to attracting these types of people.

What types of people should you avoid?

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Overcome Communication Challenges

Overcome Communication Challenges

My client *Sara had a wonderful relationship with her partner.  She considered him her best friend.  But he was in school and she had made incredible sacrifices financially and in terms of the amount of time they had together for the relationship, and she didn’t see how she could get her needs met.  We worked together to release her grief around this, and her anxiety that her sacrifices wouldn’t pay off.   We also got to some core issues from her past that were triggering these feelings.   After doing this,

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How Your Unconscious Intentions Can Sabotage Your Relationships

How Your Unconscious Intentions Can Sabotage Your Relationships

Do you struggle with your relationships?

If so, what unconscious intentions do you bring into your relationships?

 

What are unconscious intentions?

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The Biggest Reason Why You Must Leave Abusive Relationships

The Biggest Reason Why You Must Leave Abusive Relationships

While we all know that we shouldn’t allow ourselves to be abused, leaving an abusive relationship is not always an easy choice.

Why it is so hard to leave

Sometimes, the relationship is with someone you still love.  Maybe staying with this situation means financial stability, or a lifestyle that you’ve become accustomed to.   Maybe you have children that you don’t feel like you can support on your own.  Or maybe you just can’t imagine a happy life beyond the confines of your current reality.

I know what it feels like to be in abusive relationships.  I lived with 2

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From Feeling Unloved to Hugged

From Feeling Unloved to Hugged

I have a client whose mother died when she was still a baby, and her dad remarried a woman who constantly berated her and made her feel unlovable. Her father was distant and never filled the void and abandonment that she felt after losing her mother. Consequently, she has struggled all her life with feeling unlovable, and desperately craved affection. Whenever I talked with her, her pattern was to criticize herself.

From Feeling Unloved to Hugged

We were working together to release subconscious barriers that made her feel unloved when she suddenly felt

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