From Feeling Unloved to Hugged

From Feeling Unloved to Hugged

I have a client whose mother died when she was still a baby, and her dad remarried a woman who constantly berated her and made her feel unlovable. Her father was distant and never filled the void and abandonment that she felt after losing her mother. Consequently, she has struggled all her life with feeling unlovable, and desperately craved affection. Whenever I talked with her, her pattern was to criticize herself.

From Feeling Unloved to Hugged

We were working together to release subconscious barriers that made her feel unloved when she suddenly felt a softness in her arms and torso. She said she felt enveloped by this invisible force, as if the Universe was giving her that hug she had longed for for so many years!

The following week, she said that she noticed a lot more self-acceptance on her part. I noticed, independently, that I wasn’t hearing her normal pattern of self-criticism!

Feeling Unlovable?

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If you know anyone that feels unlovable, let them know that that, while you can understand why they would feel that way, it isn’t true. It is more likely that they grew up in a household with adults that were incapable of giving them what they needed, but that does not make them unlovable.

The bad news is that those feelings can keep you running away from relationships, or attracting people that make you feel that way. Changing your beliefs will change your reality, and that can be done by releasing subconscious barriers!

Want to love your self so that you can attract healthy relationships? Contact me for a 20 min consultation!

 

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The Power of Releasing the Heart Wall with the Emotion Code

The Power of Releasing the Heart Wall with the Emotion Code

I had a client who had been single for almost 4 yrs., and never had been married. She really wanted to have a family, and felt like her clock was ticking.   She asked me to check if she had a heart wall, and we discovered

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3 Steps to Become Open Hearted

3 Steps to Become Open Hearted

For most of my life, I was seen as indifferent, cold or standoffish.  I always admired people who could be loving and open hearted the moment we met. But I never felt comfortable letting down my guard with people that quickly.   I wondered, how could they trust someone so quickly?  How could these people be so  sure that they wouldn’t get hurt?

In those darker moments, I spent a lot of time in blame mode.   I blamed my farther for his constant criticism, for making me feel never enough. I blamed my mother for her inability to defend me against his attacks or stand up to him. I labeled my dad as an angeraholic, and my mom as a victim, and I was so stuck in these thought patterns that I couldn’t change my relationship with them.

I’ve come a long way since then. Now when I think of my parents, I no longer harbor any of the long-standing resentment or blame. When I think of my friends, or people I’ve met, I can approach them with an open heart. Without any conscious intention of doing something differently, I’m smiling more, I’m happier to see people and I’m noticing more love coming my way as well!

So what have I done to become more open hearted?

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5 Subconscious Barriers to Emotional Intimacy

5 Subconscious Barriers to Emotional Intimacy

For most of my life, I’ve feared emotional intimacy.   As I’ve grown aware that I’ve been unconsciously pushing people away, I’ve been on a mission to find and develop deeper and more meaningful relationships.   In my search, I found these 5 barriers that often hinder emotional intimacy. If you struggle with having or keeping meaningful relationships, where it feels safe to be authentic and vulnerable, see if any of these apply to you:

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How to Have a Better Relationship

How to Have a Better Relationship

My client Rachel came to me consumed by anger with her ex. She said that he just knew how to get under her skin. She felt like he could reach from the depths of her soul and tear her heart out.   She had believed that he was her soul mate. But she couldn’t get over the story that severed their relationship years ago:  when she had felt like he had purposely tried to undermine her career.

When couples don’t get along

When clients come to me because a relationship isn’t working, sometimes they are full of blame. Other times, they feel guilty because they get angry and frustrated too easily, and they end up regretting their actions.   Sometimes they aren’t clear on why they aren’t getting along, but they know that they still want to try to find a way to have a better relationship with their partner.

Why can’t we just get along?

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The Best Gift You Can Give Your Valentine

The Best Gift You Can Give Your Valentine

Would you like a deeper and more connected relationship with your Valentine?

Is your marriage feeling old and stale?

Is it feeling like this?

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Valentines day is a perfect time to rekindle your relationship!

No, I’m not peddling sexy underwear, a romantic dinner, or a romantic dinner in sexy underwear!   It’s something that doesn’t have to be found in a store or a fancy restaurant, nor does it require violins or even any money!

What I’m peddling is simple.   Offer your partner a wish.

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