The Easiest Way to Fast Track Transformation

The Easiest Way to Fast Track Transformation

For most of my life, I hated myself.   I could write volumes of books about what was wrong with me.   The worse thing about this was that I felt hopeless to change so many of the things I hated about myself.  Transformation felt slow, arduous and even impossible!

Now when I discover something I want to change about myself, for many things, I know how to get shifts in only a few hours!

For example, a few months ago, I was experiencing a slump in my business, despite increased speaking engagements and more exposure.   I couldn’t figure out why, until I realized that my stress around the business slow down was effecting how I showed up with potential clients.   Once I realized this, I was able to quickly let go of that stress, and better and engage and connect with potential clients.

So what did I do?  

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Subconscious Blocks to Healing Parts 1-2

Subconscious Blocks to Healing Parts 1-2

Have you been given a diagnosis that you haven’t been able to recover from?

Is this illness keeping you from having the life you want?

 

On the other hand… there are people, like Arthur, that have miraculous healing experiences.   How do they do that?

What is their key to success?

One thing that is absolutely required for healing (that most people who are sick do not have is):

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The Personal Benefits of Being Kind and Generous

The Personal Benefits of Being Kind and Generous

For most of my life, I struggled with the being kind and generous. I had grown up in a household where it was a struggle to get my needs met. So my irrational subconscious believed in scarcity, and I felt like I was giving away more than I had to give.

When I realized this, I released my subconscious barriers to kindness and generosity, and found it a lot easier to give and to contribute without feeling depleted or resentful. Friendships became easier, and I felt better about myself!

In the US, we have super rich people that hoard cash at the expense of the poor. And on the other end of the spectrum, as I wrote about in my article, “The Dangers of Putting Yourself Last” , we have caregivers that spend so much effort giving, that they often neglect their own needs.

It turns out science confirms that there are multiple physical and mental health benefits to kindness and generosity, as long as you are not feeling overwhelmed by the experience!

Lets break them down:

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Why the Movie “The Secret” is Not Enough

Why the Movie “The Secret” is Not Enough

I remember when I first saw that movie, “The Secret”. I was at a conference with scientists and thought leaders, and many people strongly urged me to watch it. But I remember, as I watched, my sense of unease began to grow and grow. I got so uncomfortable with it that I got nauseous, and kept wanting to walk out.

Why?

It reminded me too much of my early life experience with religion. Coming from a deeply religious family, I was told that if I just believed in Him, that God would provide.   But that seemed way to simple to be true, and I got the impression that there was a lot of over-promising and under-delivering.

The Secret, like many religions, wreaked of the religious promise that if only you believed, you would be happy, or get what you wanted. Again it seemed way too simple and way too good to be true.

It is based on the notion of the Law of Attraction, and it’s the idea that you attract what you vibrate.

More and more people insisted I pay attention to the Law of Attraction, but I kept resisting it.

And then I met Peter,

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The Global Consequences of Ignoring our Mental Health

The Global Consequences of Ignoring our Mental Health

It saddens me terribly to say this, but I truly believe that in this country, we are facing an epidemic of cruelty.   Forty years ago, I don’t think we could have ever imagined America as a country, where we would have an average of one mass shooting a day, where police would be regularly caught on tape beating up minorities, or where presidential candidates were allowed to openly incite violence towards anyone they didn’t like.

The reasons for this trend are many. I believe that rising inequality breeds greater unhappiness, and I’ve outlined the reasons in my article, “Does Inequality affect Your Happiness?”   I also believe that as more of us compete for fewer resources, the greater need we have to prove our worth. If we aren’t careful, we can become less trusting. The need to survive can increase our tendency to discriminate against minorities, women, children, the elderly or people who are different than us.

But humans also have tremendous capacity to come together in crises. We have the power to work together, and respond to our collective suffering with empathy and compassion.

So what is the underlying difference between those that choose the path of hate vs. the path of compassion?

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7 Signs of Decline to Watch for With Your Aging Parents

7 Signs of Decline to Watch for With Your Aging Parents

If you plan to see your aging relatives this season, one of the most loving things you can do for them, is to do a thorough check to make sure they are still able to appropriately care for themselves.

Why? Because if they are at any risk of developing any type of dementia or other chronic diseases common in the elderly, catching it early is essential to a good prognosis.

For example, before getting a formal diagnosis of Alzheimer’s disease, a patient will often have several years of Mild Cognitive Impairment, which may or may not progress to Alzheimer’s Disease. After 18 years of research in Alzheimer’s disease, the one thing that I consistently saw, was that for interventions in the Western medical sciences, chances of recovery, or halting the progression of dementia were only possible for those at the Mild Cognitive Impairment stage.   Alzheimer’s Disease is extremely costly and an incredible emotional and physical burden to the family, so catching and preventing any further decline can literally prevent a family from emotional and financial bankruptcy!

A colleague of mine, Frank Simons, who is an Elder Care Advisor recently gave us a wonderful list of things we should look out for during the holidays, to keep our loved ones healthy and cared for.

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