How to dissolve hate into love
In the book “The War for Kindness” Jamil Zaki, Ph.D. shares the story of Toni McAleer, a former neo-Nazi organizer and skin-head in Vancouver, BC. The music culture, which fostered bigotry, drew him in. McAleer felt accepted in this culture, and thus embraced it and eventually became a leader recruiting others. He even built communities online and set up racist hotlines. They were designed to promote racism. In the process of organizing far-right Aryan existence activities, he lost compassion for people outside his own racial group.
Read MoreTwo Perspectives on How Emotions are Made
Dr. Lisa Feldman Barrett, neuroscientist, TED speaker, and author of the book, “How Emotions are Made,” says that we construct our own emotions.
When I first heard this it sounded so preposterous! Emotions feel so innate. When something happens, we don’t sit there trying to figure out how to respond. In fact, we often feel something first, right before we have a good sense of our story around it.
So how did she come to the conclusion that we construct our emotions?
Read MoreFrom Feeling Unloved to Hugged
I have a client whose mother died when she was still a baby, and her dad remarried a woman who constantly berated her and made her feel unlovable. Her father was distant and never filled the void and abandonment that she felt after losing her mother. Consequently, she has struggled all her life with feeling unlovable, and desperately craved affection. Whenever I talked with her, her pattern was to criticize herself.
From Feeling Unloved to Hugged
We were working together to release subconscious barriers that made her feel unloved when she suddenly felt
Read MoreLetting Go of Holiday Loneliness
Right before the holidays, my client’s boyfriend dumped her. She did not have family or close friends to spend the holidays with. This caused distress for her. In addition to the heartbreak she felt, she had feelings of being left alone and abandoned.
Releasing feelings that cause loneliness is the first step.
Our first step to address holiday loneliness was
Read MoreThe Dangers of Vitamin D Deficiency
Most people are deficient in vitamin D.
The current recommended dose of vitamin D is 600IU daily for adults, but many experts in nutrition and functional and natural medicine say that the optimal dose ranges between 1000-4000 IU per day.
Depending on the study, Vitamin D deficiency has shown to range between 30 -75% in the general US population!
Why are so many people vitamin D deficient?
Read MoreHelp Others More Effectively
Do you have someone in your family who just can’t seem to get their life together? You might have family members who won’t engage in healthy behaviors, are depressed, and are often addicts.
Do you find yourself worrying about them so much that it is taking away from your enjoyment of life? Do you feel compelled to help, yet frustrated, hopeless and helpless about the situation?
If so, you are not alone. I regularly talk with anxious caretakers who want me to help their loved ones. Some realize that they would be more effective as caretakers if
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