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What To Do When They Won’t Listen

Posted by on Dec 15, 2018 in communication, empowerment, persuasion, Uncategorized | 0 comments

What To Do When They Won’t Listen

She won’t listen! Christine was in a new business partnership with 2 others in Arizona.  She lived in Portland, and was stressed about this partnership.  Her partner in Arizona took on more much responsibility than she could reasonably do, and important procedures were missed and not attended to.  Christine tried to persuade her that she could do the accounting, and that they needed to have an overarching plan about how to distribute responsibilities.  But her business partner was too mired in what she was doing to listen.    She was...

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Hygge: The Key to Survive Winter Anywhere

Posted by on Nov 30, 2018 in happiness, mental health, self compassion | 0 comments

Hygge:  The Key to Survive Winter Anywhere

From Sunny California to long harsh winters In my late twenties, I moved across the country to Rochester NY, known for it long, cold and harsh winters, with very little sun.   Luckily, I met friend who decided that given where I was from, that he was going to teach me how to survive winter in upstate NY.   When winter approached, he told me about the different types of clothing I needed to get to stay warm, and where to find them.  He also taught me how to embrace what winter had to offer.  He encouraged me to take up winter sports, like...

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Can a Narcissist Change?

Posted by on Nov 15, 2018 in abuse, narcissists, toxic relationships | 0 comments

Can a Narcissist Change?

My client Betty is always positive, kind and good-natured.  She asked me to work on some physical discomfort she was having.  But I always ask if I can check in with the subconscious to make sure there isn’t anything more important to address.   She agreed, and I discovered there was an issue at work that was causing a lot of stress. Her coworker was harassing her. Betty then revealed to me that a coworker was regularly coming to her cubicle to criticize or make negative comments about her work.   This coworker was also frequently making...

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How to Extract Yourself From the Scarcity Trap

Posted by on Oct 30, 2018 in Abundance, money | 0 comments

How to Extract Yourself From the Scarcity Trap

Nancy grew up in a lower middle class family, where she was taught that there was never enough.  While the family could afford to buy a home, and her parents could afford to travel, when it came to her needs, she was regularly told that there wasn’t enough.  Her parents claimed to not have enough to buy her a mattress that sank in the middle, a desk, clothes or supplies for school, and that there wasn’t enough to go to a good college.   Yet she had heard her financial advisors tell her parents that they were in good shape with their financial...

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From Couch Potato to Gym Bunny

Posted by on Oct 15, 2018 in exercise, habits, motivation, sabotage | 0 comments

From Couch Potato to Gym Bunny

My client was getting married in a year, and desperately wanted to be in shape before her wedding.  She knew that one of her biggest challenges in losing weight was that she had no motivation to exercise.  The last time she had been to the gym was 3 years ago.  She recalled that she did not want to be there, and couldn’t wait until it was over!  It had been about 10 years since she had exercised regularly. She never knew her dad, but had inherited her dad’s lack of desire in being healthy.  After releasing it, I asked her how she felt about...

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You Are Not Your Diagnosis

Posted by on Sep 30, 2018 in beliefs, growth, mindset, Uncategorized | 0 comments

You Are Not Your Diagnosis

I had a client who regularly reminded me of her diagnoses to justify her behaviors and struggles.  “I have bipolar disorder, and therefore I… “ ,  “I have autism, and therefore I…. “.   I’ve heard other mental health professionals rail against giving people diagnoses.  They’ve argued that it isn’t helpful, because labeling people, makes them feel limited by their diagnosis. I told my client:   You are not your diagnosis! I remember how relieved I was whenI was finally diagnosed with a learning disability.  It finally explained my decades of...

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Reviving from Failure to Thrive

Posted by on Sep 15, 2018 in anxiety, fear, happiness, mental health, motivation | 0 comments

Reviving from Failure to Thrive

John would lock himself in his apartment for days, not talking to anyone.  After not being able to reach him for days, his mom stopped by his apartment and found pizza boxes and empty cans of coke and pepsi strewn throughout the apartment.  The place reeked with his body oder, moldy food and urine. John had been struggling with severe mental health challenges for entire life.  In addition to depression, he had autism and oppositional defiance disorder.  He had a habit of alienating everyone he met, and so he was lonely and uninterested in...

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Seven Questions to Create a Meaningful Life

Posted by on Aug 30, 2018 in growth, meaningful life, success | 0 comments

Seven Questions to Create a Meaningful Life

For decades, I was taught that I needed to accept what I could not change and have the wisdom to know the difference.    Despite years as a graduate student in Neuroscience and post doctoral fellowships in psychiatric epidemiology at the most prestigious medical schools in the country, whenever I saw a doctor or counselor at these same institutions, more often than not, I would be either told my problem wasn’t real, or that I just had to learn to accept it. I had become disillusioned with Western medicine when I realized how little coursework...

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How Ancestral Trauma and Behavior Affect Us

Posted by on Aug 15, 2018 in behavior, epigenetics | 0 comments

How Ancestral Trauma and Behavior Affect Us

A client of mine has Parkinson’s disease.  While eliminating underlying causes, we discovered she had repressed anger that she had inherited from her great-grandmother.   In asking questions of her subconscious, I got that her great-grandmother was angry about her illness.  I then discovered her great-grandfather shared the same ancestral trauma around his wife’s illness.  My client who had traced her ancestry then revealed that this great-grandmother had 6 children, but died young.  Her husband then remarried, and they had 8 more! We...

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Why It is So Important to Take the Time to Just Be

Posted by on Jul 30, 2018 in healthy brain, mental health, stress | 0 comments

Why It is So Important to Take the Time to Just Be

My friend practices Vipassana meditation and is off to a meditation retreat this weekend.  He invited me to go, but I still have a lot of unpacking to do, and I don’t feel like I can get away for a whole weekend. This conflict remind me of the conflict between being vs. doing. I used to be hyper focused on doing.  My list of things to do has always been longer than I have had time to complete.   But because I didn’t take the time to renew, I wasn’t enjoying life, and I wasn’t very productive while working. Then a friend introduced me to...

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