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Find Love with the Emotion Code

Posted by on Feb 14, 2019 in Emotion Code, love, love, relationships, Resonating Relationships, The Body Code | 0 comments

Find Love with the Emotion Code

Are you finding yourself single once again on Valentine’s Day? With all the commercial reminders around this holiday, it can be a stark reminder to those of us who are single, of what we don’t have. But I have good news for you!  If you want to find love, I’m here to deliver a message of hope! First here are a couple of things to consider to put this day in perspective: Why it might be better to be single: People in relationships aren’t necessarily happier than you. I only need to remember my childhood to remind me that being single is far...

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One Question That Will Change Your Relationship With Yourself

Posted by on Jan 30, 2019 in love, self compassion | 0 comments

One Question That Will Change Your Relationship With Yourself

I showed up to yoga, stressed to the max with everything I had to do.   I had talk to give, taxes to do, people to get back to, a book to complete, and a blog article to write.   As my yoga instructor was guiding us through her sequence,  I found myself cycling between feeling overwhelmed about how I was going get everything done, what I should write my blog article about, and trying to remind myself that I needed to be present. When suddenly I had an epiphany. I realized that with my crazy workload, that I was treating myself in the same way...

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The Easiest Way to Stop Negative Self-Talk for Good!

Posted by on Jan 15, 2019 in beliefs, beliefs, healthy brain, negative self talk, The Body Code | 0 comments

The Easiest Way to Stop Negative Self-Talk for Good!

My client walked into my office on guard. She was stiff and seemed unable to relax.  While she had a pleasant demeanor, she really seemed to struggle with being at ease in her own skin.  In short, she reminded me of me just a few years ago. How the negative self-talk began I learned that she had a narcissistic father who was very controlling and critical.  With him she felt like she was always under a microscope, and that with every move she would make, she could be judged harshly.   I knew exactly what that felt like.   It is suffocating!  ...

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Just One Thing You Need To Keep Your New Year’s Resolutions

Posted by on Dec 30, 2018 in change, growth, mindset, New Years resolutions, success | 0 comments

Just One Thing You Need To Keep Your New Year’s Resolutions

As the New Year approaches, it is a great time to start thinking about what we can do to improve. But if we don’t have a good track record with New Year’s resolutions, we might find the idea daunting. We might even be wondering if it’s worth doing. Indeed a 1study that tracked people who made New Year’s resolutions found that only 46% kept their New Year’s resolutions past the six-month mark. How To Keep Your New Year’s Resolutions But all hope is not lost! If 46% of the subjects were able to keep their New Year’s Resolutions,...

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What To Do When They Won’t Listen

Posted by on Dec 15, 2018 in communication, empowerment, persuasion, Uncategorized | 0 comments

What To Do When They Won’t Listen

She won’t listen! Christine was in a new business partnership with 2 others in Arizona.  She lived in Portland, and was stressed about this partnership.  Her partner in Arizona took on more much responsibility than she could reasonably do, and important procedures were missed and not attended to.  Christine tried to persuade her that she could do the accounting, and that they needed to have an overarching plan about how to distribute responsibilities.  But her business partner was too mired in what she was doing to listen.    She was...

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Hygge: The Key to Survive Winter Anywhere

Posted by on Nov 30, 2018 in happiness, mental health, self compassion | 0 comments

Hygge:  The Key to Survive Winter Anywhere

From Sunny California to long harsh winters In my late twenties, I moved across the country to Rochester NY, known for it long, cold and harsh winters, with very little sun.   Luckily, I met friend who decided that given where I was from, that he was going to teach me how to survive winter in upstate NY.   When winter approached, he told me about the different types of clothing I needed to get to stay warm, and where to find them.  He also taught me how to embrace what winter had to offer.  He encouraged me to take up winter sports, like...

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Can a Narcissist Change?

Posted by on Nov 15, 2018 in abuse, narcissists, toxic relationships | 0 comments

Can a Narcissist Change?

My client Betty is always positive, kind and good-natured.  She asked me to work on some physical discomfort she was having.  But I always ask if I can check in with the subconscious to make sure there isn’t anything more important to address.   She agreed, and I discovered there was an issue at work that was causing a lot of stress. Her coworker was harassing her. Betty then revealed to me that a coworker was regularly coming to her cubicle to criticize or make negative comments about her work.   This coworker was also frequently making...

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How to Extract Yourself From the Scarcity Trap

Posted by on Oct 30, 2018 in Abundance, money | 0 comments

How to Extract Yourself From the Scarcity Trap

Nancy grew up in a lower middle class family, where she was taught that there was never enough.  While the family could afford to buy a home, and her parents could afford to travel, when it came to her needs, she was regularly told that there wasn’t enough.  Her parents claimed to not have enough to buy her a mattress that sank in the middle, a desk, clothes or supplies for school, and that there wasn’t enough to go to a good college.   Yet she had heard her financial advisors tell her parents that they were in good shape with their financial...

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From Couch Potato to Gym Bunny

Posted by on Oct 15, 2018 in exercise, habits, motivation, sabotage | 0 comments

From Couch Potato to Gym Bunny

My client was getting married in a year, and desperately wanted to be in shape before her wedding.  She knew that one of her biggest challenges in losing weight was that she had no motivation to exercise.  The last time she had been to the gym was 3 years ago.  She recalled that she did not want to be there, and couldn’t wait until it was over!  It had been about 10 years since she had exercised regularly. She never knew her dad, but had inherited her dad’s lack of desire in being healthy.  After releasing it, I asked her how she felt about...

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You Are Not Your Diagnosis

Posted by on Sep 30, 2018 in beliefs, growth, mindset, Uncategorized | 0 comments

You Are Not Your Diagnosis

I had a client who regularly reminded me of her diagnoses to justify her behaviors and struggles.  “I have bipolar disorder, and therefore I… “ ,  “I have autism, and therefore I…. “.   I’ve heard other mental health professionals rail against giving people diagnoses.  They’ve argued that it isn’t helpful, because labeling people, makes them feel limited by their diagnosis. I told my client:   You are not your diagnosis! I remember how relieved I was whenI was finally diagnosed with a learning disability.  It finally explained my decades of...

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