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From Couch Potato to Gym Bunny

Posted by on Oct 15, 2018 in exercise, habits, motivation, sabotage | 0 comments

From Couch Potato to Gym Bunny

My client was getting married in a year, and desperately wanted to be in shape before her wedding.  She knew that one of her biggest challenges in losing weight was that she had no motivation to exercise.  The last time she had been to the gym was 3 years ago.  She recalled that she did not want to be there, and couldn’t wait until it was over!  It had been about 10 years since she had exercised regularly. She never knew her dad, but had inherited her dad’s lack of desire in being healthy.  After releasing it, I asked her how she felt about...

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You Are Not Your Diagnosis

Posted by on Sep 30, 2018 in beliefs, growth, mindset, Uncategorized | 0 comments

You Are Not Your Diagnosis

I had a client who regularly reminded me of her diagnoses to justify her behaviors and struggles.  “I have bipolar disorder, and therefore I… “ ,  “I have autism, and therefore I…. “.   I’ve heard other mental health professionals rail against giving people diagnoses.  They’ve argued that it isn’t helpful, because labeling people, makes them feel limited by their diagnosis. I told my client:   You are not your diagnosis! I remember how relieved I was whenI was finally diagnosed with a learning disability.  It finally explained my decades of...

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Reviving from Failure to Thrive

Posted by on Sep 15, 2018 in anxiety, fear, happiness, mental health, motivation | 0 comments

Reviving from Failure to Thrive

John would lock himself in his apartment for days, not talking to anyone.  After not being able to reach him for days, his mom stopped by his apartment and found pizza boxes and empty cans of coke and pepsi strewn throughout the apartment.  The place reeked with his body oder, moldy food and urine. John had been struggling with severe mental health challenges for entire life.  In addition to depression, he had autism and oppositional defiance disorder.  He had a habit of alienating everyone he met, and so he was lonely and uninterested in...

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Seven Questions to Create a Meaningful Life

Posted by on Aug 30, 2018 in growth, meaningful life, success | 0 comments

Seven Questions to Create a Meaningful Life

For decades, I was taught that I needed to accept what I could not change and have the wisdom to know the difference.    Despite years as a graduate student in Neuroscience and post doctoral fellowships in psychiatric epidemiology at the most prestigious medical schools in the country, whenever I saw a doctor or counselor at these same institutions, more often than not, I would be either told my problem wasn’t real, or that I just had to learn to accept it. I had become disillusioned with Western medicine when I realized how little coursework...

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How Ancestral Trauma and Behavior Affect Us

Posted by on Aug 15, 2018 in behavior, epigenetics | 0 comments

How Ancestral Trauma and Behavior Affect Us

A client of mine has Parkinson’s disease.  While eliminating underlying causes, we discovered she had repressed anger that she had inherited from her great-grandmother.   In asking questions of her subconscious, I got that her great-grandmother was angry about her illness.  I then discovered her great-grandfather shared the same ancestral trauma around his wife’s illness.  My client who had traced her ancestry then revealed that this great-grandmother had 6 children, but died young.  Her husband then remarried, and they had 8 more! We...

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Why It is So Important to Take the Time to Just Be

Posted by on Jul 30, 2018 in healthy brain, mental health, stress | 0 comments

Why It is So Important to Take the Time to Just Be

My friend practices Vipassana meditation and is off to a meditation retreat this weekend.  He invited me to go, but I still have a lot of unpacking to do, and I don’t feel like I can get away for a whole weekend. This conflict remind me of the conflict between being vs. doing. I used to be hyper focused on doing.  My list of things to do has always been longer than I have had time to complete.   But because I didn’t take the time to renew, I wasn’t enjoying life, and I wasn’t very productive while working. Then a friend introduced me to...

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A Most Unusual Underlying Cause of Disorganization

Posted by on Jul 15, 2018 in healthy brain, organizing | 0 comments

A Most Unusual Underlying Cause of Disorganization

My client was a successful professional organizer.  I had known her for years, and she had taken a leadership role in an organization that we were both a part of.  She had played a key role in making it run smoothly   So I was surprised to see that on the day of her appointment, she called to cancel because she had double booked her appointments.  She rescheduled, and again she had to reshuffle things, but this time she made seeing me a priority.  This was not the organized professional I knew her to be! In her session, I asked about what was...

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Ten Consequences of Childhood Neglect

Posted by on Jun 30, 2018 in childhood experiences, childhood trauma, subconscious barriers | 2 comments

Ten Consequences of Childhood Neglect

Like most empaths, I have been deeply disturbed by the separation of immigrant children from their families at the border. The impact of childhood neglect can be profound.  I know this from Harlow’s research on baby monkeys, the studies of children in orphanages, by the work I’ve done with clients and my own history of neglect.   I have been worried about the lifelong psychological damage this could do to these children, the impact it will have on their ability to feel safe in this world, their ability to trust and form healthy relationships,...

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The Unbelievable Effects of Developing Resilience

Posted by on Jun 15, 2018 in beliefs, mental health, mental health tools, resilience, resiliency, The Body Code | 0 comments

The Unbelievable Effects of Developing Resilience

So far, 2018 has dealt me with one punch in the gut after another. It began with the end of my relationship with my boyfriend who I was crazy about.  It has been full of problems with housemates, stress from a law from the EU that could destroy my business, friendships falling apart, stress from more work that I could handle, loneliness, and despair about having to move out of my beloved home. I was feeling beaten up, run down, hopeless and quite depressed.  I was feeling like a victim to life.  In the midst of all this happening, I developed...

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3 Reasons Why We Need to Limit Our Sugar Intake

Posted by on May 30, 2018 in addictions, behavior, healthy habits, sugar | 0 comments

3 Reasons Why We Need to Limit Our Sugar Intake

You’ve definitely heard it before – too much sugar isn’t good for you. Yet for some reason cutting down and monitoring your sugar intake can require a lot of self-discipline.   While most of us know that too much sugar isn’t good for us, the reasons why are nebulous at best to most.  That is we I invited certified nutritionist, Kelli Wike, to tell us more about why we need to limit our sugar intake. Kelli Wike has a degree inNutritional Science from Bastyr University, and has been working with clients for 20 years with her company...

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