Five Simple Mental Reframes for Success

Five Simple Mental Reframes for Success

I’ve spent the majority of my life struggling.   I frequently looked around at other classmates or colleagues and wondered why life seemed so much easier for them.   As I gradually began to learn why, I realized one of the key differences of more successful people was a healthier perspective than mine.  Over time, I’ve learned healthier reframes that have more effectively supported my growth and allowed me to view success more realistically.  Here are some of my favorites with words of wisdom from my teachers:

1.)Lasting success requires a series of baby steps

“A journey of a thousand miles must begin with a single step.

Lao-Tzu qote–Lao-tzu

In my training as a health coach, one of the most important themes we would remind clients, would be that “lasting success requires a series of consistent baby steps”.   In the US, we expect fast results, but our bodies and our subconscious minds are rarely programmed to welcome drastic and sudden changes.   There are many strategies to success and you have often have to employ enough of them consistently and effectively to reach your goal. This takes time and requires patience and persistence!

2.)   Life is a series of experiments. Lets call it “re-search”.

I remember in graduate school, my housemate, Alan Patrick Kenny, MD, Ph.D., came home and told me about having to rerun his experiments again. I remember commenting that he didn’t seem too bothered about it, and he just shrugged and said, “That’s why they call it reeeee-search!”.   Life is one big experiment.  We are constantly adjusting things to reach our goals. If we approach our failures or mistakes as research, its a lot easier to take it in stride, and it’s a great reminder that we just need to adjust or shift gears and try again. As Dr. Alan now tells junior scientists, If it were easy, they’d call it search!”.

3.)  Don’t be afraid to try new things

Insanity is doing the same thing in the same way & expecting a different outcome” –old Chinese Proverb

If we’ve tried one method long enough and its not working, being open to new ideas and possibilities is a wonderful strategy for success. Even if this method has worked for many others, it may not be ideal for you. Don’t be afraid to ask your friends or colleagues for new ideas if you are stuck. And if you need support in implementing the change, do what you can to build an effective support team.

4.)  Let go of your enemies

“He who seeks vengeance must dig two graves: one for his enemy and one for himself” – Chinese proverb

To be angry or vengeful, or to obsess about how someone else has wronged you gives them power over you. Until you are able to make peace with the past, others will show up that will trigger you.  Here are more tips on making peace with difficult relationships.

5.) Let things flow naturally

flowing river

Life is a series of natural and spontaneous changes. Don’t resist them; that only creates sorrow. Let reality be reality. Let things flow naturally forward in whatever way they like.

~ Lao Tzu

This is a great reminder that while its important to have goals, we need to be able to sway and adapt as our environment evolves.   When I was younger, I was determined to reach my goals regardless of what the universe was conspiring to tell me. But after too many disappointments, I had to finally accept that the Universe was pointing me elsewhere.   In retrospect, I’m grateful that I listened, because it brought me to a better place.   Learning to recognize the signals and reminding myself that sometimes it isn’t meant to be allows me to better ride the waves in life.

Sometimes its worth redefining what it means to be successful in life.   Here are 20 signs your succeeding in life even though you don’t think you are.

Do you have any favorite lessons for success in life? If so please share below!

If you need support in implementing any of these strategies, listen to my interview releasing subconscious barriers and call me at 1 855 ENERJOY to set up your free 1 hr consultation.



* images used and modified from vengvanvi, tokyoboy and papijc2008, respectively at


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