- Are you happy with where you are in life?
- Are your relationships fulfilling?
- Are you able to get your needs met?
- Are you feeling empowered with regards to your health, your career and your relationships?
If your answer is “no” to any of these questions, you’ve come to the right place!
How many of us have grown up in an environment where everyone we came in contact with was nurturing, supportive and loving, and able to fulfill our needs 100% of the time?
If you are like most of us, you’ve experienced unpleasant emotions.
Have you always been able to express these emotions in a way that you and those around you have been able to completely accept them?
Or have you been encouraged to “stay cool”?
“Staying cool” does not allow for healthy acceptance of our emotions. In the effort to be cool, we try to stuff our emotions away, ignore them, or we run away from them altogether.
But when we do this, our bodies automatically contract in response to a negative experience around an event. This is a protection mechanism. It’s also called a “conditioned response”.
Remember Pavlov’s dog who learned to salivate upon hearing a bell
Ring! conditioned response:
Similarly, the fear center of your brain (your amygdala) sets off an alarm response whenever it experiences anything resembling an original trauma. This can cause an emotion to be trapped in your body.
For example, imagine that when you were little, one of the first dogs you encountered terrified you :
Imagine if you weren’t able to express the fear or get the emotional support you needed.
Gary Craig and other practitioners of energy medicine say that a major or even minor traumatic event causes a disruption in our energy system. We can use Emotional Freedom Technique to allow the energy to move freely through our bodies again.
Dr. Bradley Nelson says that it causes an emotion to be trapped in our bodies. Using the Emotion Code, we can identify and clear trapped emotions.
Trauma researcher Ronald Ruden speculates that interventions that involve tapping specific acupressure points, or meridians, turn off the alarm system in the amygdala.
Or, in other words, they are powerful ways to decondition conditioned responses, so that you can once again enjoy the wagging tail of a puppy.
OK, so how will this help me get what I want?
If we are not getting what we want in life, or we are feeling like it’s a real struggle, we may have perfectly valid reasons for feeling this way. If we grew up watching our parents struggle or if we haven’t gotten the support we needed, or if we simply don’t have the resources we need, we may not believe in our abilty to realize our dreams.
Do you often think, “If only I had [such and such], I could be successful/rich/happy?”
But consider people who’ve overcome the odds:
J.K. Rowling was on welfare, and now, thanks to her Harry Potter series, is one of the richest people in the world.
Benjamin Franklin was the 15th of 17 children of a poor candlemaker, and only had 1 year of school. He later went on to teach himself four foreign languages, science, finance and politics and became a major inventor, diplomat, newspaper editor and printer, and one of America’s most influential founding fathers.
Beethoven was losing his hearing while composing many of his symphonies, and continued composing some of his most famous works after becoming deaf.
Helen Keller was blind, mute and deaf, but became the first deaf blind person to earn a bachelor’s degree, and went on to become a world-famous speaker and author of 12 books.
Dr. Wayne Dyer spent his early life in orphanages and went on to become an internationally renown speaker and author in the field of self development.
So how did these people overcome such odds?
They believed in their power to succeed!
This means that energetically both their subconscious and their conscious mind were in line with their intentions to achieve their goals. How powerful are our belief systems? Incredibly! See what is possible when you change your mindset from not believing to believing you can improve!
So how did these people beat the odds?
Frankly, I don’t know. But one of the most popular methods is via the use of affirmations. I don’t know about you, but my problem with the use of affirmations to overcome a limiting belief, is that my affirmations would frequently be followed up the thought of, “yeah right”, or “yeah but….”. Energetically, I didn’t believe in what I was saying and so it felt inauthentic, nor did it address my pain.
When we have a limiting belief, there is either a series of events or a particular event that precipitated that limiting belief. Energetically releasing trapped emotions and negative beliefs allows our inner wisdom can shine through, and guide us in a more positive direction. This gives us our power back to control our own destiny!
But what if my problem is not emotional, but physical?
Naguib Mahfouz, the great Egyptian writer, said that “Nothing records the effects of a sad life” so completely as the human body—“so graphically as the human body.”
There is now ample evidence from neuroscience, psychoneuroimmunology, and epidemiology that life long accumulative stress can have profound affects on our health and our ability to recover.
In the book, “Why Zebra’s don’t get ulcers”, Dr. Sapolsky explains that our stress response was created to protect us under acute threats such as encountering a lion. Our bodies are not designed for the chronic stress we face in the 21st century. Chronic stress is a risk factor for most neurological disorders, illnesses, chronic diseases and problems in mental health.
Chronic stress has a negative effect on the size and functioning of the specific parts of the hippocampus, the area of the brain involved in memory and Alzheimer’s disease.
Susan Everson, Ph.D. at University of Michigan showed in a number of studies that increased chronic stress, anger, hostility and depression were linked to a greater risk of getting a stroke or other chronic health problems.
There is tons of information on the effects of stress on your brain.
“Our emotions reside physically in our bodies and interact with our cells and tissues.”
— Caroline Myss
“Illness can develop as a consequence of behavioral patterns and attitudes that we do not realize are biologically toxic until they have already become so.”
— Caroline Myss
Both animals and people can experience stress with no awareness of its presence!
“Human and animal studies show physiological stress responses can occur without subjective awareness.”
– Gabor Mate, MD
“Our emotions are supposed to be our beacons to help us mount our flight or fight response as needed, but we’ve lost touch with the gut feeling designed to be our warning system.”
– Gabor Mate, MD
We can get in touch with that gut feeling.
We can get our power back!
“Call back the energy you are wasting on events of the past.”
— Caroline Myss
But does clearing this stress or negative emotions really help people heal?
Yes! I’ve experienced this personally!
One year, I sprained my ankle. I couldn’t walk on it the first day, and had to be wheeled to the doctor’s office. Before knowing these techniques it would typically take me weeks to heal, and the stress from lack of exercise would take a big toll on my mental and physical health. I am a part-time group exercise instructor and dancer, and so this injury affected my abilities to do my job and keep up with my rehearsals. Using EFT, I cleared the trauma associated with the injury and the stress I had from the lost work, the sudden need to be dependent on others, and the lack of mobility. To everyone’s surprise, I was back to teaching in just 1 week, and teaching my step class in 1.5 weeks!
“By removing emotional trauma, EFT helps heal physical symptoms too.”
— Norm Shealy, MD, Author of Soul Medicine
Research has shown the effectiveness of EFT with phobias, PTSD, anxiety, stress, cravings, pain, fibromyalgia, weight loss and sports performance.
‘Healing requires taking action–it is not a passive event.”
— Caroline Myss
If you leave your power to heal exclusively in the hands of your doctor, then you’ve given your power away!
Caroline Myss, author of Antomy of the Spirit says:
“Recognize how and why you sabotage your empowerment .”
“Power is essential for healing and for maintaining health.”
“Discover whether you enthusiastically support becoming a fully healthy you.”
“Explore whether you have deep seated reasons to want to postpone healing.”
If you are feeling stuck, overwhelmed or frustrated, and feel like you’ve tried everything, and you’ve given up trying, then your subconscious is not aligned with your conscious intention to heal.
Your subconscious is probably saying, “why should I bother trying again? I’ll only be disappointed!” Thus to protect yourself from that disappointment, you stop trying.
“Desiring to heal is not the same as having the will to heal.”
— Caroline Myss
Your subconscious is your powerful inner saboteur. It can get in the way of healing, your goals, your relationships, and your emotions.
It is vital to get in touch with the inner saboteur, confronting its beliefs and intentions, and releasing the traumas that create the saboteur in the first place. Only then can you progress forward to regain control.
“People become really quite remarkable when they start thinking that they can do things. When they believe in themselves, they have the first secret of success.”
— Norman Vincent Peale
Let that inner saboteur go! Allow true transformation takes place.